My ex has a new partner but says he still loves me
In the six months since he got a new girlfriend, he has tried to have sex with me and kissed me. I find it hard to move on
Ihad an on-off relationship with a man for two years. He was the one that always called it off, but would always return. I loved him completely and still do. Six months ago he moved on from me and got a new girlfriend. I found this incredibly painful. Three times in the last six months, after drinking, he has smothered me in attention, tried to have sex with me, and once told me he loves me. Most recently, on a night out when she was present, but oblivious, he kissed me. I feel powerless as I love him. I find it hard to move on as I can’t take his current relationship seriously, and feel like I’m waiting for him to realise it’s a joke and leave her for me.
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